How much do you control your life…?
This question has been asked directly or otherwise by many people throughout history. Some say we are the masters of our own destiny while others say that we are nothing but mere puppets to circumctance. Whatever it is, we are very intrested in what happens in the ‘end’. We speculate about it, we modify it as we go along, from a child who wants to be an astronaut to whatever new teenage fad that erupts, we want to become somebody, from who you are to an idea of who you want to be. We strive to do so by the choices that we make. ‘The way life goes’ depends upon essentially those choices that we make… or do we?
We are all addicts. If you are going ‘yeahh’ then thats not what i meant. If you are thinking ‘no i am not’ then let me explain how wrong you are… ‘Control’ is the drug. It was on the street before streets were invented. We are obsessed with controlling things around us from the begining of mankind. The plains and mountains were too big for us so we built homes. Restricted places where we could control things better. It makes us feel more powerful. We want to make a choice towards what we want, away from what we don’t want thus trying to control things that affect us and so controlling the path of our lives. All religions talk about life and how we should live it and what choices we should make. They are all intrested in what happens in the end. Your destiny they call it. The choices we make to reach destiny, i assume, is the ‘journey of life’. Destiny is your ultimate achievement, you were born to do it and religion is that guiding light in the dark which leads you to it. Very well, but the problem is, if destiny is something which is inevitable then religion and its morals itself have no purpose of existence. You could say their purpose is to guide you to your destiny but if that’s true, then the choices you make depends upon that guidance which will influence your choice. If choices can be influenced then destiny has to be flexible which by its meaning itself, is not possible. For destiny or fate to exist, everything in the world has to be pre-determined or fixed. Some go as far as to say that this is the proof of a fixer or god. But that cannot be possible because for destiny to exist, god himself cannot choose to make a change. Get it…
Today people laugh at this idea when you say ‘it was not my fault!’ but would explain their own versions of belief at any other time with all seriousness.
Destiny is not just a thing of religion though There is a theory with pretty convincing argument.
Determinism is the best alibi after ‘destiny’ to blame upon for things that you did wrong or were careless with. I left my bike out in the night, it got stolen yesterday, determinism! 😦 Determinism is the same as destiny with a slight difference. It is not based on flying chariots…
Rather it is based upon the nature of particles. The atoms and electrons etc. It says that everything is predetermined because at the deepest level, everything reacts accordingly to the changes in its environment. Our every action, every move, every thought is a result of complex series of events which happened because of the condition or environment we were in. They would not have reacted in any other way. That, cause and effect, work from the deepest core of our being to the person we propose and love, and that choices that we make are inevitable. It means that if we could measure all things about a person, and all includes the position of atoms etc at the given moment, we can accurately predict what you are going to eat for your lunch and where, 10 years later from today, you could be dead too. Cool right, so people playing cricket are just fooling themselves, the outcome is fixed!
This means that we have no ‘free will’, no real choice of what we are doing because it is dependant upon other chain of events that led you to that choice.
A deterministic world is not a desirable world. It makes us feel too mechanical. We like to believe that we are in control of things, maybe not everything but at least things around us. But if logic is to be followed irrespective of what we feel, then determinism makes more sense than free will. I think free will is an illusion that we live in because the world is too complex for us to predict the end result. Our ‘choices’ have so many unintended consequences, which affect not only the decisions of other people, but the very choices that exist for them to make a decision for or not. We cannot measure that and thankfully so! It feels rather powerless to imagine that we have no free will. Like a withdrawal syndrome of sorts which makes us want to feel powerful again. There is a compulsive need, which makes us want to control things in our sphere of influence, maybe that’s why we are addicts of control. From the games (cityville!) that we play to the real cities we build, we love to create and control and yet fail to realize all the things that led to it. We are not as smart as we think we are, only smarter than the monkeys. x)
Talking about monkeys, that brings us to the main question, How much do you really control the way your life goes. The answer could be anything. Bananas for instance but how much ever we hate to believe it, it seems we have no real control over our life at all! That the emotion of a certain want and its fulfillment or not, had a previous series of events which led you to believe that you wanted something after which you moved predictably towards what you believed you wanted and so forth… A rather sad answer to a question, who’s answer is expected to be a triumph of humanity itself.
But there could be another way to live happily again. I think that our inability to calculate the end result, even if it is going to happen precisely in a certain way, keeps us happy and powerful. We are more happy not knowing how things will turn out to be than knowing how they will. I don’t want to know if me being born on a certain date led a friend of mine 19 years later, to host a surprise for me. I want to be surprised. My inability to calculate, lets just say a lot of things that led him to do that for me, made me more happy.
Just as the the heinsberg’s cat in a poisoned box cannot be said to be dead until we open the box, even if we can be fairly certain that she is dead without doing so, you cannot know how ur life will turn out without living it.
Anyways to prove to xyz, that ‘whatever’ was not ur fault, you will require a box, a poisonous gas depending upon your cruelty, a live cute cat. After that i hope u knw how it works… Life is so complex that we can never know what is going to happen.
Do tell me what you think about all this and weather you think you control your life or not, your own answer or something completly different! I’d love to read your comments..